You have already flagged this document. Thank you, for helping us keep this platform clean. The editors will have a look at it as soon as possible. Delete template? Cancel Delete. He was about to teach me an important lesson about how helping people is ultimately about helping them find meaning. After I'd dismissed his question Scott looked at me with tears in his eyes as if I'd betrayed him and said, "You don't understand. I don't want to die feeling like I was just some squirrel that got run over on the highway of life—hey, man, bad luck.
I know that I'm not just a victim of a game of chance. I can't believe that I live in a universe where the things that happen to us don't have any meaning. There is some meaning in this, a message in a bottle for me. The message feels just out of reach, but it's very important to me. Help me get that message. I remembered how much I, too, had wanted to get that message back when I was a kid.
In a few moments I'll tell you about all the things that had happened to me and my family that left me hungry to find some kind of meaning and how discouraged I got when I didn't think I could find any. Looking in Scott's eyes, I lost my sense of being pissed off at the universe because the things that happen to us don't come neatly labeled with their true meanings.
Scott's need reawakened my own and all the hopes that came with it. I'd thought my need for meaning was dead. I'd acted as if it were dead. But the utter genuineness and validity of Scott's need made me realize that my own need for meaning had never died.
Suddenly I felt a whole new connection to Scott, to my younger self, and to a world of people who were hungry to feel that what happens to them has meaning. There was just one problem: How in the world could I help Scott discover why he'd gotten sick and might die if I couldn't help myself?
I found myself terribly moved as I told him that I saw how this situation should have meaning and then confessed that I didn't know how to help him find that meaning. I felt I'd failed him. And I felt terrible about it. But I made a promise to myself that I would learn how to help people find the true meanings of the events in their lives. Scott called several months later.
He obviously wasn't as disappointed in me as I was in myself. I guess we all know how tough this search is. He had a note of triumph in his voice. I'd made a lot of progress, but I was still frightened of so many things—flying, confrontations, bad news, you name it.
Here's the gift getting sick gave me. Every day I'm learning not to be afraid, big-time. Death is the big confrontation. Once you face death, how can you be afraid of, like, someone rejecting you?
You know, it's true: Cowards die a thousand deaths, heroes die but once. I'd rather live a short life without fear than the living death of a long life filled with fear.
I don't know how much time I have left to live, but in the time I have left I'm feeling more alive and less afraid than I ever did before. But Scott felt he had a new lease on life even when he thought he was dying. Understanding that there was meaning in what was happening to him, discovering what that meaning was, made all the difference for him.
It made all the difference for me, too. A Voyage of Discovery That was the beginning of my own voyage of discovery. Wow, I thought, it really changes everything if you can discover the reason why some life event has overtaken you. But I was still skeptical—I was far from convinced that Scott had discovered the real reason why he'd gotten sick or if a real reason could be discovered. But it had meaning for him, and as a therapist, I had to take this seriously. Just imagine, I thought, if I could help other people discover what Scott was lucky enough to discover.
Deep down, of course, I knew how badly I needed this myself. My Story I'm sure I've had more than my share of blessings. I've been happily married for a long time. I have two great kids. I have good friends. Over the years it's been my privilege to help hundreds of thousands of people, and I love my work. So maybe you're wondering, "Hey, what does Mira know about what it's like to go through something really bad?
I grew up with loss baked in my bones. As a child of Holocaust survivors, I lost the entire world in which I was supposed to grow up. Yeah, my parents survived.
But everyone else in my family was killed: my mother's seven brothers and sisters, my father's five, all four of my grandparents. I also lost the early years of my childhood. I was smuggled across Europe at the bottom of a hay wagon. I almost died of dysentery when I was three months old. I lived in a refugee camp for the first four years of my life. A barracks full of grown-ups recovering from shattered lives doesn't make for a good-time nursery school.
When I was four my life again turned upside down and inside out. I lost my father and my sister—my parents had gotten divorced and my father and my sister disappeared from my life.
Then I left the only world I'd known, the refugee camp, to come to America. When I arrived in New York I was so skinny that one of my distant relatives burst into tears when he saw me. My mother went to work in a clothing factory, and I had to take care of my brother. She eventually remarried, but my stepfather was no bargain.
And we were poor—I didn't get a new dress until I was ten, and I bought it for myself with the money I'd earned baby-sitting. Read more. Not Enabled. Customer reviews. How does Amazon calculate star ratings? The model takes into account factors including the age of a rating, whether the ratings are from verified purchasers, and factors that establish reviewer trustworthiness.
Top Reviews Most recent Top Reviews. Fast-forward sixteen years, and she now has two unusual careers: she runs a dog-boarding facility and is a gym instructor. Aryan thinks she is the coolest mom in the world and hopes she will one day find her Prince Charming—exactly what her best friend Suchi has in mind for her.
But Vee secretly has a thing for Saurabh, the quirky vet. Then, out of the blue, Ankush comes back into their life. But can a decision that was taken at eighteen—more in the throes of lust than love—be the basis of a life-long relationship? Is there a future for Ankush and Vee? Vee, Aryan and Ankush are in for the ride of their lives. No seat belts, full speed and a very bumpy road ahead.
Read more Read less. What other items do customers buy after viewing this item? Page 1 of 1 Start over Page 1 of 1. Wake Up, Life is Calling. Preeti Shenoy. The Nameless Relationship. Life is what you make it. Review Let me start by referring it a masterpiece to one s collections out of all the novels written by preeti shenoy. It is written so well and connects chapter by chapter. You can feel the love, You can feel the pain, You feel so connected with it and it seems like its happening in front of your eyes.
Each relationship of Vee is written marvellously whether its with Suchi or Aryan or Ankush or above all the dogs. When you read and come across the disease, school, location or something which you might not relate to your day to day life, is so very well explained.
This keeps you glued to the book. This shows how much efforts you have put in for us to understand and keep reading. Preeti, you have been a wonderful writer and its keep on getting better to the best you wrote earlier. I just love reading your novels. Keep writing, Keep inspiring. God Bless you..!!! Waiting for the next.
She is a master storyteller. Each character from Vee's life is unique and interesting. Some books can be judged by their covers and when you start reading IHFAR you know the cover does justice to the story.
The ride is indeed spectacular. A must read --Rupalim Feb 21, --This text refers to the paperback edition. Not Enabled. Customers who bought this item also bought.
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